My primary ministry as a member of the body of Christ is teaching, which also entails a good deal of personal counseling. As a counselor, I was once of the persuasion that, before I could be of any practical help to a troubled person, I fi rst had to understand; for every effect there had to be a knowable and explainable cause! If this chapter leaves you with any single lasting impression, I hope it is this: Even when I don't understand, I can still be understanding. This simple concept can be the decisive factor in determining whether we will suffer frustration and failure in personal relationships, or enjoy fulfi llment and effectiveness in relating to other people. Although I may not understand, I will be an understanding person.